Temper Tantrums and How To Deal With Them
Most people with young children, will, at one point or another, have to deal with temper tantrums from their toddler. When the child does it for the first time or they are very young when they start having them, parents can find it amusing as they child will completely over react to some small incidence, such as not being able to do something for themselves, or the parent saying no!
Most people with young children, will, at one point or another, have to deal with temper tantrums from their toddler. When the child does it for the first time or they are very young when they start having them, parents can find it amusing as they child will completely over react to some small incidence, such as not being able to do something for themselves, or the parent saying no!
Other people that witness your child's tantrums may be amused at this outburst from your child, particularly if they have always been relatively well behaved prior to this, but laughing at the child may just add fuel to their fire and provoke an even worse outburst.
It can be particularly excruciating if the child happens to give an award winning performance when you are out shopping in a packed mall or when visiting other peoples house, or anywhere in public generally!
One of the first things to remind yourself is to not over react to the situation which will just make it worse. If you find yourself getting cross and then starting to shout then take yourself off to another room and calm down before going back and trying to sort the situation.
If the child sees you react to the tantrum, they may repeatedly throw tantrums just to get some attention and therefore a reaction from you as they will think it is funny.
If you can see all the signs of a tantrum on the way, then the best thing to do is to try to distract your child away from whatever is making them cross in the first place. Start singing a nursery song, or asking them to look at something with you.
Stick to your guns. If they are having a tantrum because you would not let them do something, the worst thing to do is to give in and then let them have it, just so that the tantrum stops. This will teach them that you will give them what they want if they misbehave.
If diffusing the situation does not work, try putting them on the naughty step. This is where you put the child in a safe, but boring place, and they have to sit there for a certain length of time. Most people do it for a minute of every year in age their child is.
For example, if your child is 3, then sit them there for 3 minutes. This method works best for preschool and older children as toddlers will not really understand the concept and distraction techniques work better with them.
It is a good idea to talk to your child about why they had the tantrum, what they could have done instead of doing that, and why you have chosen to make them take time out on their own to reflect on their behaviour. Luckily for most children temper tantrums are just a phase.
Most people with young children, will, at one point or another, have to deal with temper tantrums from their toddler. When the child does it for the first time or they are very young when they start having them, parents can find it amusing as they child will completely over react to some small incidence, such as not being able to do something for themselves, or the parent saying no!
Other people that witness your child's tantrums may be amused at this outburst from your child, particularly if they have always been relatively well behaved prior to this, but laughing at the child may just add fuel to their fire and provoke an even worse outburst.
It can be particularly excruciating if the child happens to give an award winning performance when you are out shopping in a packed mall or when visiting other peoples house, or anywhere in public generally!
One of the first things to remind yourself is to not over react to the situation which will just make it worse. If you find yourself getting cross and then starting to shout then take yourself off to another room and calm down before going back and trying to sort the situation.
If the child sees you react to the tantrum, they may repeatedly throw tantrums just to get some attention and therefore a reaction from you as they will think it is funny.
If you can see all the signs of a tantrum on the way, then the best thing to do is to try to distract your child away from whatever is making them cross in the first place. Start singing a nursery song, or asking them to look at something with you.
Stick to your guns. If they are having a tantrum because you would not let them do something, the worst thing to do is to give in and then let them have it, just so that the tantrum stops. This will teach them that you will give them what they want if they misbehave.
If diffusing the situation does not work, try putting them on the naughty step. This is where you put the child in a safe, but boring place, and they have to sit there for a certain length of time. Most people do it for a minute of every year in age their child is.
For example, if your child is 3, then sit them there for 3 minutes. This method works best for preschool and older children as toddlers will not really understand the concept and distraction techniques work better with them.
It is a good idea to talk to your child about why they had the tantrum, what they could have done instead of doing that, and why you have chosen to make them take time out on their own to reflect on their behaviour. Luckily for most children temper tantrums are just a phase.
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